‘I’m Not a Jerk’: Why I’ve ‘Never been’ a victim of sexual harassment
“I know that I’m not a jerk,” said Susan, a 30-year-old senior at the University of Missouri-Kansas City.
“I’ve never been one.
I’m a proud student, and I’ve got a great job, and a great life.”
But the news has sent shockwaves across the U.S. education industry, where universities across the country have faced accusations of sexual assault and harassment for decades.
Susan said she feels “betrayed” by her institution.
“It makes me feel very alone.
I feel like there is nothing I can do about it.
I don’t want it to be the case that there is something wrong with me.
I know there is, and it makes me sad,” she said.
Susan, who is single and doesn’t have a boyfriend, said she has had sex with dozens of men in her life.
She said she’s had unwanted sexual advances, including one in which a student grabbed her buttocks and then grabbed her breasts.
She is now in therapy and says she has been harassed by several male students and faculty members, including a professor who groped her in his office, according to her statement.
Susan’s experience is not unusual.
In her statement to the Wall Street JournoList, an advocacy group for victims of sexual misconduct, she said she had been a victim in three different incidents, including an alleged assault at a school in Texas and a rape in which she was a passenger.
She said she was “totally unprepared” to handle the situation, “with my own feelings and emotions in a way that is outside my control,” she wrote.
She told The Wall Streets Journal that she felt “betrared” by the university, but said she felt pressured to come forward because she was on campus.
Susan has not filed a police report, but her attorney, Jennifer R. Brown, said that her client plans to do so.
“I feel like we have a very strong culture at the university,” Brown said.
“That’s the thing we need to get better on.”
Brown said her client has received support from students, staff and other faculty members.
“The way we do things at the school has to change,” she told the Journal.
“We have to teach people, we have to be more supportive and that’s something I think she wants to do.”
Susan said that after hearing about her rape and the assault on her in Kansas, she started seeing other female students who were also victims of assault and abuse.
“People in the industry are still telling women that they can’t come forward,” she added.
“When people say ‘it’s just a man,’ they don’t understand.
It’s not just a male.
It goes both ways.”
A similar phenomenon occurred in New York City last month, when a young woman named Jane Doe, who was 14 years old at the time, told her friends that she was raped by a professor, according, to The New York Times.
Jane told the Times that she had “finally been able to come to terms” with the fact that she and her classmates had been victimized.
“A lot of things happened in my life, and you can’t undo what happened,” she continued.
“This was a very, very painful experience for me, and there was a lot of trauma that was in my past.”
Jane told The Times that her case prompted her to “put aside my sexual fantasies, my sense of empowerment, and put it into my life.”
The New York Police Department is investigating Jane’s allegation.
In an email to The Journal, a spokesman for the department said it was aware of the incident, and was reviewing the case.
The spokesperson also said that the NYPD’s Sexual Assault Prevention and Response Program would investigate Jane’s case.
“Our law enforcement community, as well as the general public, needs to be reminded that sexual assault is a crime, and that victims and witnesses should report it to authorities as soon as possible,” said the spokesperson, Patrick J. Ryan.
The Wall Street Report interviewed two former students of Jane who said they had been victims of unwanted sexual attention.
“You don’t think about it,” one said.
But, she added, “I did feel like I was at risk.”
The second woman, who has not been identified, told the report that she too had been groped by a male student.
The second student told the Wall Streets Report that the student, a professor in his mid-20s, had tried to “get my number” after she said he groped and kissed her.
In New York, the state has enacted legislation requiring all colleges and universities to develop and enforce policies and procedures for responding to sexual harassment allegations, including ensuring that women have the opportunity to report sexual assault without fear of retaliation.